Byrnes wrote:Stephanie: just became a member here & saw your post... sounds like you made a good decision (to put some distance between yourself & your father). As an adult, your mom will have to make her own decisions about tolerating father's behaviour; better that you are not in the middle of it. You can still support her emotionally without being there physically.
My family doesn't believe in mental illness, either - funny considering it runs through the family, and has made appearances in the last 3 generations (beyond that, I don't know). I told my father, Bipolar isn't Santa Claus - it doesn't go away just because you don't believe in it.
Wishing you the best
Byrnes wrote:Baby, you would NOT want gifts from bipolar Santa! Speaking from experience, I've made my most horrifying gift choices when on a manic bender (my father's 3rd wife never got over the twitch caused by unwrapping my wedding present, three, individually wrapped, hand-sized african beetles [for some reason, my theme was "metamorphosis"]. )
I can only imagine the chaos he would wreak on christmas eve - forced to stay up all night, meet an insane deadline, consuming nothing but sugar - I can see the old gent now, screaming carols and making naked snow angels.